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    Dating Don’t and Do’s... Avoid the Bad Date Blues

    Dating Don’t and Do’s... Avoid the Bad Date Blues
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    Do you know that many people hate dating as much as they do public speaking?  Are you one of them?  Have you resigned yourself to being single not because you prefer your independence, but rather because you despise dating so much?  Have you been out on so many painful first dates that you have given up on the idea of ever meeting someone worthwhile?  Do you tell yourself that there are just no good people out there anymore so it’s not worth the effort?

    International Women's Day

    International Women's Day
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    Cheers to all the fearless women from Darling Way on 2016 International Women's Day.

    Lobster Love

    Lobster Love
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    Lobster LoveHave you heard the one about how lobsters mate for life? Did it put a silly smile on your face and make you think goofy thoughts about how you might be a bit jealous of these large red crustaceans?  (Or was that just me?)

    My grin lasted until just now when I wrote the title of this piece and then went happily in search of joyful tales of loving lobster couples living in the ocean blue…  

    Unfortunately, then the waves of reality crashed upon me and I am sputtering and sad.  

    Mirror, (damn) Mirror

    Mirror, (damn) Mirror
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    Isn’t it strange that I am more willing to look like an actual mess to the outside world than to feel imperfect within myself?  

    Who Says Adults Don't Sext?

    Who Says Adults Don't Sext?
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    Sexting:  noun, To send suggestive text messages back and forth Sexting isn’t just for young people - it’s for anyone who wants to send a little spark to a special...

    Love: A Superpower?

    Love: A Superpower?
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    “Faster than a speeding bullet, more powerful than a locomotive, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound.” Such are the powers of the amazing Superman. He is awesome,...

    I forgot it was so hard...

    I forgot it was so hard...
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    This weekend I had the amazing opportunity to speak at the esteemed Fenway Health in Boston. I was thrilled and humbled to partner with the devoted team from this outstanding organization. Fenway Health has been a shining star for over 40 years, providing services and a voice to a community that the rest of the medical profession was so hesitant to address. I couldn’t believe that I was lucky enough to be part of their story even in a tiny way.

    Kissing 101

    Kissing 101
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    A kiss is just a kiss…right? No! No! No! Romantic kisses are way more than just a meeting of a pair of lips. Or at least they should be. Many...

    Get your touch on!

    Get your touch on!
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    Why? When you stimulate the pressure receptors in the skin, you lower stress hormones in both the person being touched and the one touching. Touch can provide a slew of benefits, including mitigating pain, better sleep, reduced irritability, increased confidence, and a greater connection between touchers. Who doesn't love Win/Win?

    Weathering the Winter Blues Together

    Weathering the Winter Blues Together
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    The gray skies, blistery winds and cold temperatures can lead us to withdraw into our own little worlds as we snuggle alone in a comfy blanket with flannel pajamas to keep us warm. This is a great thing to do when we are alone or need some solitude. But if you have a special someone, why not warm them up while they do the same for you?


    Speechless

    Speechless
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    In so many ways, I am a chatterbox. I will talk to people I know, strangers on the street, sometimes even someone in a passing car. I use my ability to converse as a way to bond with people. I don’t like small talk, I want to delve into the serious, meaningful, often uncomfortable topics. I don’t care much about the weather, but I care deeply about everyone’s story. As people open up to me through conversation, it’s natural that a connection is formed between us. Though intangible, it can be quite strong, even after only a single encounter. I have found that most people feel closer to someone after sharing their personal perspective. Whether it is a person who is used to opening up to others or not, the act of revealing our inner thoughts brings people together. I don’t pretend to know exactly why it happens, but I see time and time again that talking personally allows walls to come down and relationships to take hold. Because relationships are what energizes me, I love being gifted with a person’s confidences. Their act of sharing with and trusting me fuels my affection back to them. I hear their stories and secrets and I protect them; I give them value and respect. It’s a beautiful, magical, verbal dance.

    New Year's Eve Your Way

    New Year's Eve Your Way
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    New Year’s Eve is one of the few holidays that everyone can celebrate together regardless of religion, heritage, culture, nationality, family status or gender. While some cultures recognize more than one calendar, I don’t believe there are any that aren’t also willing to accept December 31 as the end of a year. In this way, New Year’s Eve is an inclusive holiday and can be celebrated by all. This doesn’t mean drunken insanity is required though. It means we can feel a sense of community with all of our neighbors and compatriots as we all create our own ways to commemorate the ending of one year and the fresh start of another.

    Gift Circuitry

    Gift Circuitry
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    This week is generally a mad rush for people trying to frantically finish their shopping; trying to make sure that everyone on the list is accounted for with the proper gifts. While giving is the spirit of the season, the flip side is that for every give, there is a receive. How many of us are really comfortable when we are this side of the equation?

    When you are handed a gift, how many times have you said “Oh, you didn’t have to” or “Oh, you shouldn’t have”? Somehow this can slip out so easily, but what does it really mean? Do we think the person gifting us truly thinks a gift was “required” and we are trying to enlighten them? Or do we mean that we didn’t think it was expected so we didn’t get them one and we are trying to excuse that fact? Do we say it sometimes when even though it could reasonably be expected that one would bring a gift (eg. a birthday celebration), but we are trying to give the impression that the gifts are not important to us? As we age, have we somehow come to believe that adults should outgrow the excitement of gifts? If we are financially successful and don’t “need” anything, do gifts become unnecessary or less significant?

    Party Games

    Party Games
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    Tired of the same old same old when it comes to holiday parties? Are you bored with the pasted on smiles, the small talk with people you don’t care enough about to see more than once a year? Do you find yourself wishing you had an excuse not to go? Would you like to add a little old fashion fun to your party nights?


    It doesn’t take much to make a blah evening into Wow! Try one of these games with your special person during your next gathering and enjoy a bit of frivolity together. You never know what good things happen when couples shake things up a bit:

    Of Fire and Love

    Of Fire and Love
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    Flames burn, not quite silently, but often quietly. The vibrant changing colors and shifting outline of each flicker ensures that eyes instinctively seek it out. Animals, human and other, are drawn towards it almost as often as they are repelled by it. When otherwise dark, even a tiny flame can guide us and give us comfort. Large fires intimidate and scare us with thoughts of powerful destruction. In an era of modern technology, why does one of the most basic elements thrill and enchant us as much now as ever?

    Fire plays a starring role in our written history as well as our daily lives. A quick search on Google for "fire quotes" yields over 106 Million responses. The use of "fire" often means passion, drive, or urgency. While often accorded respect as a positive attribute, we can also see the "danger" lurking just below the surface of these qualities. The implication is clear, "having a fire burning within" can lead to wonderful things, or it can cause destruction. Even metaphorically, dealing with fire requires proper care.  Read more

    Manly Layers

    Manly Layers
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    It’s been such a lovely evening. The dinner was fabulous, the ambiance and conversation just perfect. You even held hands and giggled like teenagers for a few blissful moments. Before you know it you are both in your bedroom, lips locked and clothes falling. You step back for a brief moment and in surprise, your mouth drops open. You do a double take staring at his underwear…

    I’m trying to be grateful…

    I’m trying to be grateful…
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    It’s easy to appreciate the good things in life.  I have no trouble sincerely expressing my gratitude for my wonderful children and granddaughter, the amazing friends and family that support me constantly, the fact that I am able to support my family financially and of course, that we are all mostly healthy.  These are the easy, obvious blessings in my life and worthy of unending appreciation.  


    However, I am taking a different approach this Thanksgiving.   In addition to the obvious,  I am trying to be thankful for the more complex, harder issues in my life.  I want to embrace matters  that I generally complain about or dislike.  For example, these are some of the things  I am trying to be grateful for:  

    Chocolate Hero

    Chocolate Hero
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    We all know that Thanksgiving is about gratitude; we celebrate the goodness in our lives with the people we love. Turkey and stuffing tend to be the mainstays of the holiday, and apple or pumpkin pies traditionally end our dinner in honor of the fall season. We lean back in our chairs after indulging to appreciate our full tummies. Yet, if one pays very very close attention, it becomes clear that there is one thing missing from this special meal. An oversight easily remedied with proper planning and minimal effort. Our mouths long for a final encore; a lingering taste other than the tang of seasonal delights. Only the warmth of a melting chocolate signals our appetite and tongue that the feast cycle is complete - the final perfect note in the performance has been struck.  Be the hero at your holiday celebrations this year. Bring chocolates.  Read More...

     

    It's a Bloody Mess

    It's a Bloody Mess
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    Last week, I watched a woman get out of a parked car on a street downtown and accidentally bang into the edge of the door. Her leg started bleeding significantly but she wasn’t otherwise hurt. Her companions rushed to her attention immediately, they offered any possible assistance. At least two people gave her napkins to absorb the blood and prevent further mess; wet wipes were openly provided by another to clean herself where the blood had dripped; even a stranger was compelled by the sight of her bloody leg to stop and offer to get her a drink of water just to help her relax for a moment. Within minutes, a middle aged man, not her husband, took off running down the street to buy bandages for her while others in her group waited patiently with her at the side of the car. I looked carefully at each of her friends and the unknown bystanders searching for signs of embarrassment, emotional discomfort or disdain. I saw only caring, sympathetic concern for this woman in her bloody plight.

    Slip and Slide

    Slip and Slide
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    We are ready to blow the lid off the secrecy about lubes.   The day has come to begin openly talking about how much better intimacy can be with a healthy dose of a quality lube.  It's time for women to break the silence that has surrounded the topic of vaginal dryness just as years ago they breached the barriers that kept people from discussing menstruation and conception.  How is it possible that so many intelligent, successful people are suffering from painful intercourse when the solution is so readily available?  The cone of silence must be lifted and the word must be spread amongst all... Lubes are for Real Women!  Lube makes sexy time happy time for all!  Lube is wet, slippery and sexy! Yay for Lube! 

    Be Afraid, It's Romantic!

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    It sounds crazy, but there is strong scientific evidence supporting the idea that being afraid triggers the same hormones as sexual arousal. It seems that anything that makes your pulse race is likely to be interpreted or translated into romantic feelings by your mind. Arousal is arousal, whether fear or sexually based, and our bodies can’t help but respond. Our brains try to make sense of the emotional input that results from fear and it’s easy to categorize it as attraction and desire because they all have the same results.  Entire Article

    Football Life Lessons

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    Isn't it amazing how so many people can spend so long talking about the football game that happened the night or even week or year before? Have you been surprised by how carefully they have analyzed the plays, the strategies, every movement of each player? Have you heard fans who have never even played football speak with authority about what a team "should" have done?

    Wouldn't it be great if people were so serious about analyzing their own actions and relationships with as much desire for success and improvement? Why not think of our lives each week as a football game and review our own game tapes each Monday?

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    Kiss Beauty Treatment

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    In case you need another reason to kiss someone special today, now you can call it a beauty treatment!   It seems that kissing uses 30 muscles which helps keep the face tight.  We think that means that the more you kiss, the less likely your cheeks will sag. Wait, there's more!  Extra bonus for serious kissing: the muscle tension caused by a passionate kiss helps smooth the skin and increase circulation.  So for your face's sake, kiss someone special today!

    Monday, Monday

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    It’s so easy to jump up in the morning and put aside all thoughts of fun and pleasure as we start the new week determined to work through our never ending to do lists. We have promised ourselves that this week we will eat right, exercise, be incredibly productive and focused; we have so many things to get done before Friday and we almost don’t know how we will do it!

    What is Romance?

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    I think that romance and pornography have a lot in common… to paraphrase the Supreme Court,  “I will know it when I see it” applies equally to both. 

    The Significance of Romance

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    Romance doesn't have to come from other people or from sexual intimacy. 

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