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 How Prostate Massagers Work

There are a lot of pleasure products available these days, and there are more designed for the prostate than ever before, but nothing comes close to the Aneros line of prostate massagers. Shaped with men’s anatomy in mind, our products are designed to maximize your experience, whether you’re new to prostate stimulation or you’ve been doing this for years. Read on and discover what makes ours the best.

All of the Aneros prostate massagers follow the same basic design, with variations to provide different experiences. The front arm is curved upward to press against the perineum, behind the scrotum.  This arm is called the Perineum Tab, or P-Tab.  On some models, the rear arm is curved down, in order to make it easier to remove your Aneros. On others, it’s curved up to press on the base of the tailbone for extra sensation.    This is called the Kundalini Tab, or K-Tab.

The main body of your Aneros massager is the perfect length to reach the prostate. It’s anatomically designed, so insertion is easy, and the head and neck are designed to be held in place by the anal muscles.

Most Aneros models are made from a firm plastic that makes it easier to control the motion of the massager. The Syn models feature a plastic core and a silicone outer layer. They also have a more flexible front arm, which allows you more subtle control over the intensity of your experience. This flexibility works best when you can tune in to the smaller motions of your pelvic muscles. New Aneros users often find the firmer plastic models are more effective, at least until they gain more skill with their massager.

The Aneros design is different from other products you might have used so be sure to read about how to use your Aneros and get the most out of it.

When you have your Aneros massager inserted, squeeze your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle group. This is the muscle that you can contract to make your penis bounce when you have an erection. It’s also the group of the muscles that contract during ejaculation.

When you squeeze the muscle, it causes the anus to tighten and pull up inward, toward your head. The front tab on your massager acts like a fulcrum, so each contraction levers the shaft of your Aneros into your prostate. When you relax the muscle, the massager returns to its original position. Your ability to use your PC muscle gives you the ideal control over the speed and pressure of your massage, and with a little practice you can create different sensations on your prostate.

You can use your Aneros during solo sessions or with a partner. It’s comfortable to wear in almost any position other than sitting. Since it needs to move freely in order to get that lever action, sitting on a chair or couch doesn’t work.

Try squeezing your PC muscle in short bursts or hold it for a longer time. Experiment with timing it with penis stimulation or explore it on its own. Since your pelvic muscles also squeeze and relax during sexual stimulation, you can also allow the natural contractions of your pelvis to control the motion instead of doing it deliberately. Natural contractions can take some practice to tune into, but they allow you to enjoy a much longer session and a lot of men say it’s their favorite technique!

Some guys experiment by moving the Aneros manually, but that’s not really how it’s designed. You’ll get more from it if you allow your PC muscle to do the work.

One last tip – the front tab sometimes slips off to the side, which means your Aneros won’t get levered correctly. If that happens, simply reach down and slide it back to where it should be.

Since the PC muscle is in charge of making your Aneros work, you’ll want to get it in shape. The longer and more firmly you can squeeze it before it gets tired, the better your Aneros session will be. As an added bonus, a toned PC muscle can also make your erections firmer.

Learning to control your PC muscle takes some practice, so you need to do your Kegel exercises. Named for the doctor who popularized this exercise for women, Kegels are just as important for men to do.

There are two ways to identify which muscle you want to work on. If you’ve ever made your erection bounce by squeezing your pelvic floor, you already know where your PC muscle is, even if you didn’t know that’s what you were doing. The other technique is to sit on the toilet and start to urinate. Once urine begins flowing, squeeze the muscle that makes it stop. That’s the one you’re aiming for. You only need to do this while urinating the first time, in order to find the muscle. After that, you can exercise it any time.

Now that you know where your PC muscle is, here are three ways to work it:

1) Do a squeeze and release on a two count. (squeeze-two, relax-two)

2) Do a slow four-count cycle. (squeeze-two-three-four, hold-two-three-four, release-two-three-four, relax-two-three-four)

3) Do a series of quick butterfly squeezes, followed by an equal resting time.

Start off with just a few reps at a time and build up, just like any exercise. Be sure to rest and relax the muscle in between sets to avoid muscle spasms. Don’t forget to breathe during your pelvic workout- exhale on the squeeze and inhale on the relax.

The more you do your Kegel exercises, the more you’ll get out of your Aneros sessions, so remember to do them every day and you’ll see how amazing your prostate pleasure will be!

One of the great things about the Aneros massagers is how many ways you can use them. A lot of men enjoy having their partners massage their prostates, but it’s difficult to combine prostate massage with other kinds of sex. Fortunately, the Aneros makes it easy to combine them.

You can use your Aneros during almost any kind of partnered sex, including oral sex and intercourse. Some men say it’s easier to tune into the prostate sensations if they’re in a less active role. For example, intercourse while you lie on your back with your partner astride you may work better than missionary position because the larger motions of thrusting can make it difficult to tune into the prostate pleasure. But other guys say they enjoy using their Aneros while in a more active role during intercourse, so it’s worth trying it to see what works for you.

Using the Aneros when you’re solo is one of the best ways to enjoy prostate massage. It can be difficult to manually massage your own prostate, though men with longer arms and more flexible wrists often enjoy it. Using the Aneros makes self-massage easy. Your Aneros is a great add-on during masturbation. In fact, your PC muscle may involuntarily contract as you get turned on, so you can get prostate pleasure even if you’re not trying to control your Aneros.

What makes the Aneros different from other pleasure products is that it’s designed to focus specifically on the prostate. Other toys might offer amazing anal sensations, but that’s different from prostate stimulation.

Available in a variety of sizes, shapes, and materials, dildos are designed to create an in-and-out sensation by sliding back and forth. This means they aren’t hands-free and many of them aren’t shaped for maximum prostate stimulation.

A butt plug (also called anal plug) has a wide bulb and a narrow neck. It’s inserted into the anus, allowing the muscles to hold the neck and keep it in place. This creates a sense of fullness, while also being hands-free. However, most plugs don’t move very much and many aren’t long enough to reach the prostate anyway, so they don’t offer much prostate pleasure.

Unlike dildos and butt plugs, your Aneros massager is designed with prostate anatomy and pleasure in mind. It’s hands-free, so it’s simple to use. Since the purpose is to stimulate the prostate rather than the anus, it’s slim for easy insertion and men who want to enjoy prostate pleasure without focusing on anal stimulation say it’s the perfect design.

There are other prostate massagers available, but they aren’t made with the same care, attention, and understanding of male anatomy as the Aneros. Aneros massagers are the only ones designed for a true hands-free experience, to work with the body’s own contractions. The hands-free concept facilitates a mind/body experience which elevates the amount of pleasure a man can receive from an Aneros massager over others. If you want the best prostate massager, remember than Aneros was the pioneer and we continue to make the best products around!

While medical research still has a way to go when it comes to understanding the benefits of prostate massage, there are a lot of men who have had positive results from it. Massage increases blood flow and improves health in any part of the body, but there are ways in which it’s especially useful for your prostate.

One of the possible causes of prostatitis is having tight pelvic muscles that can squeeze or compress the gland. Unlike bacterial infections, which can be treated with antibiotics, the physical irritation from nearby muscles won’t be affected by medication. But learning to relax the pelvic floor and doing Kegel exercises can relieve tension and improve prostate health.

Massage can also be helpful for men with an enlarged prostate (benign prostatic hyperplasia or BPH). Men with BPH often have difficulty urinating because the gland squeezes around the urethra. Fortunately, lots of guys with this condition report that massage can help reduce symptoms and the Aneros makes it a lot easier to massage yourself than trying to do it by hand.

Massage may have other benefits for your prostate health. Some doctors believe that the microscopic glands that produce prostatic fluid can get blocked up and that massage can help clear the gland and improve function. It’s also believed that a bacterial infection can form a biofilm, which is an enclosure that protects the bacteria within it. It’s similar to the plaque that can form on teeth. Massage may break up the biofilm and make it easier for your immune system to get to work. And if you’re taking antibiotics for the infection, they’ll be more effective.

Lastly, prostate massage improves your health because the more familiar you are with your prostate, the easier it is to get the best medical attention when you need it. Men who aren’t familiar with prostate sensations might only be able to tell a doctor it feels uncomfortable “down there.” Guys who know what and where their prostates are can often help their doctors make the right diagnosis because they can feel what’s going on. Knowledge and informed communication can speed the medical process and get them the right care.

With all of these health benefits to prostate massage, isn’t it good to know something can be good for you and feel so amazing at the same time?

Whether your Aneros is made from hard plastic or it’s coated with silicone, the non-porous material is easy to clean. Simply wash it with soap and hot water and let it air dry. You can use any kind of soap to clean it.

If you’re using the Vice, be sure to remove the vibrator before washing it. The silicone portion can be disinfected by washing it and then putting it in boiling water for five minutes. Don’t boil the other models since the plastic can be damaged by boiling.

Prostate health concerns

When it comes to your sexual health, a little knowledge can make all the difference. There are three main prostate health issues that you need to know about:

• Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH)

• Prostatitis

• Prostate cancer

If you’ve had your prostate checked by your doctor, you probably didn’t enjoy it. Doctors don’t want it to hurt, but they’re trained to not make it pleasurable because they don’t want patients to feel like their doctor is sexualizing their exam. So don’t let your medical check-up keep you from trying prostate pleasure.

Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH)

Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) is one of the most common prostate health concerns. In fact, 50% of men will have an enlarged prostate by the time they reach 50 years old. Many men with BPH experience no symptoms, while others report feeling a frequent need to urinate. They might also have incomplete emptying of the bladder, since the prostate can constrict the urethra and force the bladder to work harder. If the bladder doesn’t fully empty, the residual urine can eventually lead to bladder infections. The size of the prostate doesn’t necessarily match the symptoms of BPH since it may get bigger without squeezing the urethra, or it may squeeze the urethra without growing much larger.

Prostate massage can be an effective treatment for the symptoms of BPH, though it’s important to speak with a doctor about it first. Massage by hand is one option, though it’s difficult to do yourself. The Aneros prostate massagers make it easy for men who want to improve their prostate health.

Many urologists recommend 2-3 prostate massages per week, each lasting 20-30 minutes. Some men will notice improvement in their symptoms right away, and others take longer to see the effects. Try using your Aneros massager as often as is comfortable for you.

Prostatitis is a group of several conditions with similar symptoms. There are four different categories of prostatitis.

Type I (acute bacterial prostatitis) occurs when bacteria or other microorganisms get into the urethra and up inside of the prostate. Symptoms usually occur suddenly and include lower back and pelvic pain, difficulty urinating, fever, and chills. Type I usually resolves with antibiotics.

Type II (chronic bacterial prostatitis) shares many of the symptoms to Type I, though they come and go gradually rather than having a sudden onset. Type II is often the result of a Type I infection that didn’t fully resolve with antibiotics, though recurrent urethral infections can also cause it. Sometimes, Type II requires different antibiotics to resolve. If that doesn’t take care of it, it can result in chronic inflammation of the gland. That can lead to symptoms coming and going for many years.

Type III (chronic prostatitis/chronic pelvic pain syndrome) is one of the more difficult to cure. The same symptoms may occur, but lab testing will not find any sign of bacterial infection. This category is sometimes described as a “catch-all” because it includes similar symptoms to Types I and II, but unlike I and II the cause is unclear and in some cases may not even be prostate-related. There are a lot of unknowns when it comes to Type III and there are many studies underway to figure it out.

Type IV (asymptomatic inflammatory prostatitis) won’t have any symptoms, but there are signs of inflammation present in prostatic fluid. It’s usually diagnosed when evaluating other conditions.

If you’re experiencing pelvic or prostate pain, please speak to a medical professional before engaging in prostate massage. While massage can help with some conditions, it may not be appropriate in all situations.

Prostate cancer has been getting more attention as more men have become aware of it. The American Cancer Society estimates that 1 out of 6 men in the United States will be diagnosed with prostate cancer and 1 out of 36 men will die from it. It’s important to learn about your health so you can get appropriate medical treatment.

Part of what makes prostate cancer tricky is that it often has few symptoms. When symptoms do occur, they may include:

• Frequent or urgent need to urinate, difficulty in passing urine, interrupted or weakened flow of urine, dribbling afterward

• Pain during urination or ejaculation

• Blood in the urine or semen

• Pain or stiffness in the lower back, pelvis, hips, or thighs

• Partial erections or impotence

• Decreased quantity of semen during ejaculation

There are also higher rates of prostate cancer for men older than 50 and men with a family history of prostate cancer. Research is currently being conducted to figure out why African-American men are more likely to have prostate cancer. Scientists are also looking at the effects of diet and geography (prostate cancer rates are higher in some places than others).

Because there are usually no symptoms, the only way to know if prostate cancer is present is to get screened. One test requires a doctor to manually check for hard lumps that might be tumors. The second test is a blood test that looks for prostate specific antigen (PSA).

There is much controversy surrounding the PSA test since it doesn’t necessarily lead to better health outcomes. Many cases of prostate cancer grow very slowly and don’t cause any problems for years. Because the PSA test can’t determine how fast the cancer will grow or whether it will become deadly during a man’s natural lifetime, some men may undergo treatment needlessly. The effects of prostate cancer treatment include incontinence, erectile dysfunction, plus the extreme psychological stress and financial burden of surgery or other treatments, and many men choose active surveillance in order to delay more invasive procedures.

While there aren’t many resources that discuss the sexual effects of prostate cancer, there are a few that can help you work with your doctor. Sexuality for the Man with Cancer is available for free on the website of The American Cancer Society. Man Cancer Sex is one of the most useful guides on the topic for men and their partners. Both of these guides cover many different kinds of cancer and treatments, with excellent information on prostate cancer. Gay men can also look to A Gay Man’s Guide to Prostate Cancer.

Although there hasn’t been a lot of research devoted to the positive effects of prostate massage (besides feeling amazing), there are many men who have reported benefits

and many doctors believe that it can improve health.

Massage of any part of the body increases blood flow, bringing oxygen to cells and removing waste products like carbon dioxide. That’s especially true when massaging the prostate since pleasure combined with arousal creates additional blood flow.

The prostate is made of millions of microscopic fluid-producing glands and some doctors believe they can get backed up and trap bacteria. Massage may help release such blockages. The fluid can even form into prostate stones, which are similar to kidney stones. By squeezing more fluid out, regular massage may help keep bacteria at bay.

Bacteria that grow in the prostate may form a protective layer called a biofilm. Plaque on teeth is another example of a biofilm, which is why brushing your teeth is important. Massaging the prostate may disrupt biofilms if they exist, thereby weakening the bacteria’s protection. If have prostatitis (link to prostatitis page) and you’re taking antibiotics to resolve it, getting rid of any biofilm may increase the effectiveness of your medication by making it easier for the medication to get to the infection.

Some men with BPH report that their symptoms improve when they make prostate massage part of their regular routine. While each man may have different results, it’s certainly worth exploring to see how it works for you.

Lastly, the more you know about your body, the more you can work with your doctor to maximize your health. When you’re familiar with prostate sensations, you’re more able to recognize when something isn’t quite right. Being able to identify that something is going on in your prostate rather than “down there” makes it easier to get medical care when you need it.

With all of these possible benefits to prostate massage, it’s great to know that something that feels so good can be so good for you, too!

The prostate as a pleasure zone

When it comes to men’s sexual anatomy, most people don’t think of the prostate. But it can be a source of amazing pleasure, whether you’re exploring it solo or with a partner. The more you know about it, the easier it is to have a great time.

The prostate is similar to the Skene’s glands in women, which are in the area known as the G-spot. This makes sense, since our sexual body parts are a lot more similar than most people think. They come from the same basic template and grow in different ways, depending on genetics and hormones, but the underlying structures look and feel very similar. Here are a few of the connections between them:

▪ Penis <-> clitoris

▪ Testicles <-> ovaries

▪ Scrotum <-> outer labia

▪ Prostate <-> G-spot

Given how much explosive pleasure many women experience from G-spot stimulation, it is no wonder more guys are exploring the prostate, also known as the male G-spot. If you want to learn more about your prostate (or your partner’s), read on!

The prostate is part of your sexual and reproductive system. It’s a gland that produces about 30-50% of the fluid in semen. Most of the rest of the fluid comes from the seminal vesicles, which sit on top of the prostate like wings. Sperm, which come from the testicles, make up less than 5% of the volume of semen, which is why men who have had vasectomies don’t notice much difference in the volume of their semen.

The prostate gland is located above and behind the deepest portion of the penis, which goes much further into the body than most people realize. Of course, when we’re talking about penis length, we’re usually discussing the part of the penis that can be used for penetration. But the bulb of the penis extends further inside, which you can see and feel behind the scrotum when a man has an erection. The prostate is at the deep end of it, and surrounds the urethra (the tube which connects to the bladder)..

When a guy gets turned on, the prostate starts to fill up with fluid like a water balloon. At ejaculation, tiny muscles inside the gland squeeze the fluid into the urethra and other muscles in the pelvic floor cause ejaculation.

The prostate is often easier to find when a man is aroused since it’s larger, especially for younger guys. Most men’s prostates will eventually get larger as they age, with 50% of men at 50 years old having an enlarged prostate and 80% of men by the time they reach 80. While an enlarged prostate can sometimes lead to health problems, it also makes it easier to find. Guys in their twenties might need to get really turned on first.

Some men are able to feel prostate sensations, even without direct stimulation. In some cases, hard thrusting when they have a full erection can jostle the prostate, adding an extra pleasure to sex. Other guys can feel the prostate contract during ejaculation. In fact, when some men try prostate massage for the first time, they say the pleasure feels familiar because they have experienced something similar. But don’t worry if that’s not how it works for you. If you discover how amazing prostate stimulation can be, that’s what is important!

It’s sort of hard to describe prostate pleasures if you’ve never experienced them, especially since different guys have different ways of talking about them. But there are a few common themes that can make it easier to know if you’re on the right spot.

Sometimes, prostate stimulation can feel like you need to urinate. Don’t worry- That’s actually a sign you’ve found the prostate, but you’re probably pressing a bit too hard. Try backing off on the pressure to see if it changes how it feels. It can also help if you get more aroused first since arousal can change how prostate stimulation feels. And sometimes, you’ll find it starts off feeling like you have to urinate, and the sensations change in a few minutes, so don’t get discouraged.

A lot of men describe prostate pleasures as less focused than penis stimulation. They often also say that it feels more diffuse, spread out, and larger than penis pleasures. Some guys say the pleasure radiates from the prostate into other parts of the body, or they feel warmth, throbbing, or swelling in their genitals.

During your first few sessions, it’s also possible to not feel much of anything at all. It can take some practice to tune into what’s going on, especially if you’re used to the very focused sensations of penis pleasures. And sometimes, more isn’t better. If you press too firmly, it can feel uncomfortable or even painful. If that happens, don’t give up. The odds are after you’ve done it a few times, it’ll start to feel a lot more enjoyable.

A lot of men say prostate pleasure feels like the beginning of an orgasm. Since the prostate squeezes during ejaculation, this makes a lot of sense. But instead of lasting just a few seconds, it can go on for as long as you want it to. That’s a pretty incredible experience and some guys are lucky enough to have a prolonged orgasm during their first session. But if you don’t, it’s definitely worth trying a few more times to make it happen.

You might also feel pleasure radiating from your prostate into other parts of your body. Prostate sensations often feel more diffuse than penis-focused stimulation, and some men report they can feel it in different parts of their bodies, especially during a more intense session or with some practice.

With all of those possibilities, it’s no wonder we hear so many descriptions of what prostate pleasure can feel like. Plus, it’s common for it to feel different as you gain experience using your Aneros. The best approach is to try it and see what happens for you. Stay open to different possibilities and don’t stress if it doesn’t match how other guys describe it. What’s important is that it feels good to you! 

One of the common myths about anal sex for men is that the prostate is the reason it feels good. It’s true a lot of guys who are into receiving anal intercourse are doing it because of how the prostate feels, but that’s not the whole story.

In fact, anal stimulation is distinctly different from prostate stimulation. There are different nerves in each part of the body and different kinds of sensations feel good to each of them. A lot of prostate enthusiasts don’t really care for anal stimulation if the prostate isn’t involved. Some men enjoy anal play but don’t get much of a thrill from their prostates. And of course, plenty of men like them together.

That makes a lot of sense, given the similarities between G-spot stimulation and prostate massage. Plenty of women enjoy intercourse without ever trying G-spot play. And there are women who enjoy having their G-spots pleasured with a single finger or a slim toy, without wanting anything bigger because they want to focus on the G-spot rather than the vagina.

The Aneros massagers are designed to focus on the prostate. Since they don’t slide in and out, they don’t offer as much anal sensation as some other products, which allows you to pay more attention to the pleasure potential of your prostate.

Prostate stimulation can be amazingly fun, whether on its own or combined with penis stimulation. An orgasm that occurs with prostate play can feel quite different from an orgasm without it. A lot of men say that prostate orgasms feel larger, or bigger. They might describe them as happening throughout their entire bodies, or they’re stronger or more intense.

Some men are able to orgasm from prostate stimulation alone, and their orgasms might not include ejaculation. Most people think of ejaculation and orgasm as the some thing since they usually happen together. But they’re actually separate processes and with a little training, it’s possible to separate them.

One of the most common reasons for learning to orgasm without ejaculation is that the refractory period (the time after ejaculation when you don’t get an erection for a while) doesn’t happen with a non-ejaculatory orgasm. This means you can keep going, again and again. This kind of orgasm might feel very different from an orgasm that includes ejaculation. With practice you can teach yourself to stack these orgasms on top of each into a truly other-wordly experience Aneros users call the Super-O

A lot of men say it’s easier to learn to have a non-ejaculatory orgasm if you include penis stimulation during your session, especially when you’re new to this kind of pleasure. As you get more practiced at it, you might find you can ride the waves of sensation with less penis stimulation, but some men say they always need to include some in their sessions. There’s nothing wrong with that- it’s just how it works for some guys. So don’t get goal-oriented about how you think it “should” work because that only gets in the way of enjoying the experience.

If you ejaculate during a prostate massage, you might notice semen flows out rather than shooting out. While many men don’t care, some do. If you want to have a more dramatic ejaculation, try a face down position like being on your hands and knees to give you a gravity assist.

However you enjoy your prostate massage and whether it leads to orgasm for you or not, your Aneros massager is a great way to explore new pleasures. Have fun!

Easy Anal Penetration: Everything You Need to Know

The best way to massage your prostate is through anal penetration. You can also get some indirect stimulation by firmly pressing the perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus) up towards the head, but the fact that you’re going through layers of muscle and other tissue means that the massage is less focused. It’s like giving someone a backrub when they’re wearing a sweater. It can feel good, but it’s definitely not the same thing.

When you get to the prostate through anal penetration, it’s a lot easier to access because all that stands between you and the gland is the wall of the rectum. That means you can feel more kinds of stimulation, including lighter touch, smaller motions, and more subtle movements.

It can take some practice to get used to anal penetration, especially since the muscles tighten up when you feel stressed, anxious, or worried. That means that if you’re concerned about discomfort, it can make things a bit more difficult. Fortunately, the Aneros prostate massagers are designed to make things easy. Since they are meant to focus on the prostate, they’re slimmer than toys that are meant to stimulate the anus. That makes them a lot simpler to use, no matter what your experience level.

There are a few simple steps you can take to make things work and feel better. Whether you’re new to the Aneros prostate massagers or you’ve been using them for a while, read through these tips to discover how you can get the most out of your experience.

One of the most common concerns around anal penetration is whether things can get “messy.” Obviously, you need to be more mindful of that than with vaginal penetration, but it’s not difficult.

Since all of the Aneros products are made from either non-porous plastic or silicone, they’re easy to keep clean. Washing them with soap and hot water after use is all you need to do.

In general, there shouldn’t be much, if anything, left behind after you have a bowel movement. However, that’s not always the case, especially if you use medications that affect your digestion or if your diet doesn’t have enough fiber. If you’re concerned about it, you can rinse out with the StreemMaster Mini Douche. Use wrist-temperature water and be sure to lubricate the nozzle before inserting it. Simply hold the water for 15-30 seconds before releasing it into the toilet. You can repeat this a few times, if necessary.

Since the Aneros massagers only penetrate as far as the prostate, a lot of men don’t bother rinsing out. You can lay a towel down on the bed in order to keep things neat. That can also be a good way to make sure that the lubricant doesn’t get on the sheets.

It can also help if you get turned on first. Arousal helps the pelvic floor relax, so penetration is simpler. It also makes finding the prostate easier since it fills with fluid and gets larger when you get turned on. So whether you use your Aneros solo or with a partner, start off doing something that gets you turned on to maximize your pleasure potential. Many men find that as they gain experience with their Aneros massager, this becomes less necessary.

You’ll also want to have a high-quality lubricant. For tips on picking the right one, read on.

To get the most out of your Aneros experience, you’ll need a high quality lubricant. There are a lot of choices, so here’s how to find the one for you.

Most men use water-based lubes because they’re easy to clean up. A quick rinse in the shower or using a hypoallergenic wipe takes care of any lubricant that may have gotten on your skin.

There are a few different kinds of water-based products. Some of them, like ID Glide, are glycerin-based. That makes them super slippery and long lasting, so they work great. And ID has a thicker formula, which is often preferred for anal penetration. Glycerin can become sticky when it dries out, but you can refresh it with a drop or two of water.

Lots of guys like glycerin-free lubricants like System Jo H2O and Aneros Sessions because they don’t get sticky. However, some users find that they dry out a little more quickly so the need to apply more. (Adding water won’t help with these.) Glycerin-free formulas are good for people whose bodies are sensitive to products because it can be irritating to the rectum..

An easy way to get lubricant where you want it is with the Aneros Marksman. You simply open the tube, apply some lube to the neck, insert and squeeze. That makes sure you have plenty of lubricant where the shaft of your Aneros product will be. Be sure to also apply lubricant to your massager to make insertion easy.

That’s a tricky question to answer since different people have different preferences. It’s like shaving cream or other body-care products. Some men don’t care which one they use and others go with a specific brand. Your best bet is to try one or two and see how they work for you. Sometimes, finding the right lubricant can make all the difference in your prostate massage so if your first experience doesn’t feel quit right, try a different one and see if it helps.

There are a few popular positions that will help you get the most out of your Aneros experience. Different ones work for different guys, so you’ll need to experiment a bit to find the ones that feel best for you. Here are some pointers to get you started.

On your back

This is one of the easiest positions to get into because it’s so relaxing. Put a couple of pillows under your head and upper back to curve your spine and help you insert your Aneros massager. You can also put a pillow under your hips to put your spine in a C-curve. That makes it easier for your muscles to relax so you can focus on moving your Aneros.

Try putting your feet flat on the bed, with your knees bent. You can also experiment with bringing your legs closer together or further apart. If you can put the soles of your feet together, with your knees out to the side (butterfly position), go for it. If that’s a challenge, try putting a couple of pillows outside each of your legs so you can rest them open without working the muscles.

Another option is to bend your hips and knees to 90 degrees and grab the backs of your knees. That changes the angle of your pelvic floor and can make your Aneros session more intense. Try using your arms to support your legs, too. You can also lay your legs flat on the bed and see how that goes. That can work really well if you want to wear your Aneros during sex with a partner.

In these positions, it’s usually easiest to insert your Aneros by reaching down between your legs.

Face down

One of the big advantages of a face down position is that gravity works with you to increase the sensation of your Aneros massager. Try getting on your elbows and knees. It’s an easier position than hands and knees because there’s less pressure on your wrists.

Face down is also an easy way to use your Aneros during sex with a partner. You can wear it while giving oral sex or even during intercourse (though some men say that the subtle sensations of the Aneros get lost during intercourse).

You can explore having your legs together or in a spread eagle position. And if you’re getting a massage, you can lie flat on a bed or massage table.

Another fun face-down variation is to stand on the floor and bend over the end of the bed. You can hold yourself up on your elbow or rest your weight on the bed. If you have tight hamstring muscles, give your knees a small bend to make it easier to bend over. This position lets you move your hips freely, which can be lots of fun. It’s also the easiest way to insert your Aneros while face down since you can reach either between your legs or around the back. Or you can insert it while on your back or standing, and then move into a different position.


You can stand upright and let the muscles of your pelvis control the action, or you can even walk around. Each motion of your pelvics will send the Aneros into your prostate!

One advantage to standing is that it’s “gravity-neutral.” When you’re face up, your muscles work against gravity to bring your massager into contact with your prostate. When you’re face down, they have to work to lift the massager off of it. But standing means that your muscles never work against gravity, so it’s a great option, especially if you’re new to working the pelvic musclesBut don’t worry about your Aneros slipping out. The shape of the shaft will keep it in place.

The easiest way to insert your Aneros while standing is to put one foot on a chair or a footstool. Then, you can either reach down the front or around the back as you slide it in. Once it’s in place, you can put your foot down or find another position.

Side lying

Another “gravity-neutral” option is to lie on your side. Simply lie down (lots of men prefer to do this on their right sides) and bend your upper leg and knee to 90 degrees. Rest your knee on a pillow and relax. This is one of the most effective positions. It’s also really relaxing, so you can enjoy an extended session.

Inserting your Aneros in this position usually works best by reaching around the back.

Before you can get to the prostate, you need to know how to make anal penetration easy. Lots of men enjoy anal stimulation along with their prostate pleasure, while others prefer to focus on their prostates with minimal anal stimulation. Whichever group you’re in, here’s what you need to make it work.


Despite how they show it in erotic movies, anal penetration is about relaxing open rather than forcing or stretching open. The two best ways to do that are breathing and arousal. Taking long, slow, deep breaths encourages the pelvic muscles to relax, while short, fast, high breathing makes it tighten up. The more you practice deep breathing, the easier things will be.

That’s especially important if you’re new to anal penetration and you’re worried about pain or discomfort. Anxiety makes things get tighter, so whether you were stuck in traffic, you’re stressed about work, or you’re concerned about your prostate experience, the more you can let that go, the more you’ll get from your Aneros massager. Taking a hot shower before your session can also help you to relax.


Whichever lubricant you use, be sure to use plenty of it. Cover the entire shaft of your Aneros massager. Not using enough lube can end up cutting your session short because of discomfort.


The more turned on you are, the easier it is to insert your massager. If you’re new to using an Aneros, start off with some solo pleasure, massage around the anal opening, or enjoy an erotic movie. Many men find that after some positive experiences, it becomes easier to get started,


Place the tip of your Aneros against your anus with the front tab aimed towards the front of your body. Take a slow breath and as you exhale, bear down. This is the same motion you make when you go to the bathroom. While bearing down, gently press the Aneros into your anus. When you start to inhale, you’ll feel your anus squeeze around the neck of the massager. Gently press it into place, being sure that the tab is centered on your perineum (the area between the testicles and anus).

If your massager rotates to the side during use, simply slip it back into place to position it correctly.

Common Worries About Prostate Pleasure

When men first start exploring prostate pleasure, there are three worries that often come up:

1) Will it be painful?

2) Will it be messy?

3) For heterosexual men, does this mean I’m gay?

While a lot of guys are hesitant to talk about these things, it’s important to get the facts so you can enjoy your experience. Fortunately, it’s easy to deal with each of these concerns.

The most important thing is to work through them so they don’t get in your way. You can’t relax and enjoy your experience if you’re worrying. As one user put it, prostate massage works best when your mind, heart, and body are all on board. As you read through these pages, notice if anything comes up for you and take a moment to ask yourself why that is so you can take care of it.

It’s easy to understand why this is the biggest worry for a lot of men when it comes to anal penetration. There are a lot of myths about anal sex that contribute to the idea that it’s painful. Plus, if you don’t know what you’re doing, it can certainly be uncomfortable. But all it takes is a little know-how and some practice to make it work.

The anal opening is made of two rings of muscle. The skin of the anus contains many sensitive nerve endings with a density similar to your lips. You probably know how you can kiss someone and feel every curve of their lips against yours. That’s how much sensation your anus can feel, too.

It is important to understand the sensitivity factor because your anus will tighten if it feels any discomfort, whether you’re going too fast or not using enough lubricant. The anus also tightens when you’re stressed out or worried. If you’ve had a busy day or were stuck in rush hour traffic, there’s a good chance that you’ve tightened up. (There’s a reason we call stressed out people “tight asses.”)

The anus can also tighten up if you’re nervous about anal penetration. Worrying can cause pelvic tightness, no matter what the reason for the worry might be. Even guys with lots of experience with anal penetration have stressful moments that make things less comfortable, though having more practice does make things generally easier.

Fortunately, the Aneros prostate massagers are slim, so they’re much easier to insert than some other products. Since they focus stimulation on the prostate rather than the anus, they don’t need to be as wide as anal toys. They’re also smooth, so they’re a lot more comfortable to insert than many sex toys.

Inserting your Aneros will be easier if you use lots of lubricant, which reduces friction, another element which can cause discomfort and tightening.

You might need to experiment a bit to figure out the best position for you. Even small changes in position can affect how things feel, so try a few variations and pay attention to how they work for you.

When you are ready for insertion it is important to take long, slow, deep breaths. This breathing pattern actually causes the pelvic floor to relax, while faster, higher breathing makes it tighten up. Try inserting your Aneros as your exhale since that often helps. And be sure to read everything you need to know about easy anal penetration.

Lastly, remember anal penetration doesn’t ever have to be painful. If it is, that’s a sign that something needs to change. Hold still and take a few deep breaths, or remove the Aneros and re-insert after a short break. Try a different position or add more lubricant. Don’t try to tough it out. The point of this is to feel great, not to endure something unpleasant.

It’s pretty obvious that hygiene is more of a concern for anal penetration than other kinds of sex. But it’s also true that it’s pretty easy to keep things clean.

One big difference between using your Aneros prostate massager and other kinds of anal penetration is that you’re not thrusting in and out with your Aneros. That minimizes any possibility of things getting messy, so the odds are on your side.

It’s good to know that the rectum isn’t a “storage tank:” it’s a passageway. Stool is not stored here; it only passes through on its way out during a bowel movement.If you have a healthy diet with lots of fiber and if your digestion is good, there shouldn’t be much left in the rectum after you go to the bathroom.

Lots of guys will start their session by taking a shower or bath so they can wash thoroughly. The warm water from a shower can also help you relax, which makes inserting your Aneros much easier. You can even lay your towel down on the bed to keep stray lubricant from getting on the sheets and make clean up simple.

In addition to lubricating the Aneros before inserting it, you may want to apply a dab of lube to the anal opening. If you like, you can put on a disposable glove first. That way, you can take the glove off inside-out and not have to wash your hands. Many men prefer latex-free gloves since latex can irritate the anus. You can get them at any drug store.

While it’s not generally necessary for prostate massage, some men are more comfortable if they rinse out before they start. The StreemMaster Mini Douche makes it easy. Simply fill it with warm water (wrist-temperature is ideal) and lubricate the nozzle. Get on your hands and knees, insert the nozzle and squeeze the blub. Don’t release the bulb until you remove the nozzle in order to keep it from sucking water back into it. Hold the water for 15-30 seconds before releasing it into the toilet.

You can repeat this a few times, or even hold the water in while refilling the bulb and doing a second round before releasing all of the water at once. It’s a good idea to do a few gentle bends or twists while sitting on the toilet to make sure that there isn’t any water trapped inside. If you can, rinse out a couple of hours in advance to give your body time to fully rest before your session and to make sure any water that is still inside has had a chance to come out.

You may choose to keep a hand towel nearby so you have somewhere to put your Aneros massager when you take it out. This will allow you to enjoy the aftermath of your experience without having to jump up and clean everything immediately.

Since all Aneros massagers are made from either hard plastic or silicone, they’re non-porous and easy to clean, so you can rest assured that using them is hygienic and safe.

The most important thing is your comfort because it will make all the difference to your Aneros session. Following these simple steps will help ensure you get the most out of your experience.

There are a lot of myths about anal sex for men, but the most common is the idea that enjoying anal penetration equals being gay. Due to the unfortunate presence of homophobia in our culture, many people still believe that being gay is a bad thing. Because of this, some straight men are uncomfortable with the idea of doing anything that might make others think they’re gay. Of course, it isn’t true that only gay men like to be penetrated.

More heterosexual guys are discovering how much pleasure it can bring. After all, it’s not like your sexual orientation has anything to do with where your nerve endings are. The only difference is gay men are more likely to have tried it, simply because there’s more awareness of anal play in the gay community.

Also, being gay doesn’t necessarily mean you like anal play. Recent research shows that gay men have anal sex less than 40% of the time. For some, it’s because it’s not what they’re interested in on a given occasion or with a particular partner. For others, it might be because they just don’t enjoy it.

There are a lot of reasons for these myths, and a lot of men struggle with them when they start exploring prostate massage. But you’ll find that the amazing experience of using an Aneros massager doesn’t change who you’re attracted to.

It may help to consider the fact that while many men of all sexual orientations enjoy anal stimulation in addition to prostate massage, others enjoy focusing on prostate pleasure while paying minimal attention to the anus. There’s nothing wrong with either of these arousal patterns- it’s just how different men are wired. Most of the Aneros prostate massagers are designed to focus on the prostate rather than the anus, so they work really well for guys who want to enjoy their massage without including anal stimulation. Others, like the Progasm, are designed to offer both at the same time.

Ultimately, it all comes down to how you explore the different ways to experience pleasure in your body, no matter what your sexual orientation happens to be. Whatever works for you is what’s important, and your Aneros massager is a great way to discover that.


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